Sex, Drugs, and CBD

Introduction

Matt:
Hi, I’m Matt

Dee Dee:
And I’m Dee Dee. We are the hilarious outcome of opposing brains sharing a mutual desire to share knowledge and positivity when thinking about hemp and cannabis.

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Welcome

Dee Dee:
Hey, thanks guys. Thanks for being here and listening to us. Um, <laugh> we got a interesting topic of conversation today, which I don’t know that much about not gonna lie <laugh> so I get to leave most of this to Matt and I’ll chime in with my hilarious jokes when I can.

Matt:
I’m not speaking today.

Dee Dee:
Yes, you are speaking today. This is your, this is your wheelhouse.

Matt:
All right. Well, I guess I am speaking today. <laugh> so, uh, today we are going to talk about C, B, D, and, uh, erectile dysfunction also called ed. So this is an important topic victim for a lot of reasons. And for that reason, I’m gonna try to keep my emotional, um, maturity meter on, uh, which is not really my strong suit. It’s really with me. Um, because it’s, it’s just hard to make ed sexy <laugh>

Dee Dee:
Boom. Yeah, really

Matt:
Is. And that was it. I got that one out the way. So

Dee Dee:
Get that one

Matt:
Out of the way. Now we can move on. Okay. Now we can move on. Good. Okay. So whenever you’re ready, tell us about your experience with ed.

Dee Dee:
I’ve not had any experiences with ed. Luckily I don’t have one of those to have an experience with it.

Matt:
Wow. Okay. So

Dee Dee:
I can talk to you about CBD an ed, but I don’t have a erectile dysfunction.

Matt:
Very true. Yeah. So the reason we’re having this, this podcast listeners out there is because there are a lot of false profits out there. There are a lot of companies looking to monetize on C B, D. We touch on this a lot in this podcast, we do the hot new thing. Now is advertisement stating that C D will cure or treat erectile dysfunction, specifically maintaining an erection that

Dee Dee:
Is false,

Matt:
Could not be further from the truth. And I hate discrediting CBD, but we also have an obligation to make sure you have the facts as we see them and are making wise decisions when you move forward in your life, uh, and the choices that you make on how you choose to supplement and what you supplement for. Right. Um, so we wanna get into a little bit of the causes of erectile. This function, the remedies, uh, we’re not physicians. This is purely based on research that we’ve done. This is gonna be a free form conversation, which is all of our convers

Dee Dee:
You’re own

Matt:
Personal experience. My own, I will, I will bring up some of my own personal experiences. Y’all are gonna get inside the bedroom with me and your mind, mind your mind. So do you just marinate on that for a minute? And we’re gonna talk about what you need to do, or what is our healthy decisions on taking the next step? If you do have issues with sexual dysfunction, and even though we’re really gonna talk about ed, I don’t think, I think the term ed is very specific to men. I think sexual dysfunction is a very important topic for both men and women. Absolutely. Even though we joke and we have fun because it’s so much better to joke than to be serious. And, you know, nobody wants to listen to serious. I don’t, I don’t. Uh, and I don’t expect you to either, but it, it, it is a serious topic. And I feel that is frequently overlooked with women, um, for the, the, the pure reasoning that women can have sex without being aroused. Um, true. And men can’t. So, you know, we want to, we want to touch on that as well. So Dee, um, I’m, I’ll just jump in then I, yourself

Dee Dee:
Thought I’ll I trust me, you know,

Matt:
You’ll and then you chime in,

Dee Dee:
Will chime in as always, you

Matt:
Just stop me,

Dee Dee:
Stop me. That’s what I’m really good at.

Matt:
So to summarize we’re, we’re gonna, we’ll start on the men’s side. So on the male side, similar to the female side from the research we’ve done, there’s essentially two types of erectile dysfunction. There’s two types of ed. Um, and sometimes you as an individual could have both, and that is the physical dysfunction, meaning that your body is UN is unable to produce and maintain an erection, uh, or is unable to achieve climax and the psychological aspect where there is a mental, psychological reason that you cannot, um, maintain an erection, or you cannot function sexually in a way that is comfortable and pleasing to you and your partner. So I agree with that, that, um, is where we get kind of flowed into the CBD part. So to deal with the physiological side, first men who suffer from erectile dysfunction, and I would argue women often have a blood flow issue. Uh, we getting blood to that area, getting blood to the genitals, um, is, is what creates the sensory, uh, the sensations, what creates a stimulation and, uh, what causes, uh, ultimately the pleasure of, so

Dee Dee:
It’s all about stimulation.

Matt:
It is about stimulation. It is, um, it, it is, but if, if you’re unable to get blood flow to that area, it’s going to be difficult. And that can happen for a lot of reasons, being overweight, being unhealthy, having a heart issue, uh, sometimes, uh, physical, uh, illnesses, uh, that you’ve had in the past can leave people, uh, in what’s what was called impotent. I’m not sure what the current parlance is. I don’t really

Dee Dee:
Care. Well, age age has a big factor

Matt:
In that age. Um, well, but that that’s, that’s something different. So that, that you have that aspect of it. Then you have the hormone part of it, which for men would be testosterone, uh, for men, for women would be estrogen where, and progesterone and progesterone you. Thank you. You’re welcome. You’re right. Uh, where the male body doesn’t produce enough or the female body doesn’t well and testosterone for women as well, uh, is important for sex drive. Uh, so being unable to produce those chemicals will inhibit the ability to receive that stimulation. Um, and that’s a problem as well. I think it’s, it’s also important to bring up at this point that studies have shown men are producing on average 30%, less testosterone than they were 50 years ago. Nobody’s quite sure why yet, uh, but that is,

Dee Dee:
Could it be the birth control pills that are in their water that we don’t know about? I mean, there’s so many issues with that, that we could bring up environmental factors. Let, I mean, yeah.

Matt:
It, and you know what though, I mean, we would, we would purely be guessing at this point. Sure. Because I mean, it could be social reasons. It could be, uh, environmental, it could be a combination of a lot of different things. The point is men are producing as much testosterone as they used to, as you continue in age, you produce less testosterone. So that becomes an issue. Um, and you know, there’s a few different ways you can fix that as well or work with that one obviously is to supplement, uh, hormone supplementation is now mainstream. It’s not unusual. Uh, if it’s something that you’re interested in, I’d highly recommend checking in I’ve

Dee Dee:
There’s commercials all over the place about this,

Matt:
Right? Yeah. Yep. Um, I’ve not done that myself. I have been very fortunate to maintain a high to testosterone level only because

Dee Dee:
Of trust me some days it’s too much folks. I gotta bring it down. How

Matt:
My estrogen, how, how much is too much.

Dee Dee:
Sometimes it’s too much,

Matt:
How much is too much. I mean, where where’s that meter where’s that gauge? I don’t think it’s semester does. Uh, but in all seriousness, um, maintaining proper diet and proper health and, uh, an adequate amount of exercise can actually make a significant, uh, difference in your testosterone level. So I’ll agree to that. So regular exercise and a proper diet and, and a proper sleep regimen as well, too. And that’s constantly

Dee Dee:
Overlooked. Um, well, and from a female perspective to maintain our sexual health as well, we should be eating properly and working out and having the stimulation that we need as well. Right. So that’s important for females too.

Matt:
Right? Right. So from the physiological aspect of it, it, it very well may be something that you can’t control, but there are a lot of factors out there that you can control and you can choose to control by working with your doctor, by taking control of your life, by making the decision to be healthy and live a healthy lifestyle, you might be surprised how much that, that would make a difference. Now, the problem is often as United States, citizens as Americans, we don’t like that. We, we, oh, exercise what,

Dee Dee:
Oh, for

Matt:
Sure. Eight hours of sleep, what

Dee Dee:
Most doctors don’t even recommend any of that

Matt:
Anymore? Well, we unfortunately live in, in a, in a culture, in a society where most people are unhealthy and a significant portion of the population is obese. So the popular resolution for that, not you Dee, I don’t like that at all. <laugh> an important part of dealing with that means not just seeking the magic pill. Oh, for sure. Not just throwing the coin and the wishing well, and saying, I wish, or going to your doctor and saying, what can you do for me that requires zero effort on my part. There is no such thing. And that includes C unfortunately, but that is the way it is. You, you have to do work as an individual.

Dee Dee:
The thing I think about CBD and ed is the one thing that I think CBD could help with in regards to erectile dysfunction, is that it might help you relax a bit and lessen your anxiety about the issue. So, but most of these companies that are promoting this, they’re saying that it’s pretty much the cure, all that it’s gonna cure your erectile dysfunction. That is not true. Can it maybe help you with your anxiety because of that issue? Yes.

Matt:
Well, and that’s the psychological aspect we’re gonna get to that next.

Dee Dee:
I know I’m just leading you into it.

Matt:
You’re just jumping in <laugh>. So, um, and, and I, 100% agree with you. Mm-hmm <affirmative> um, and I want to get into that more, right. Uh, but just to wrap up the physiological side from the C B D side of it, there’s not a lot of evidence that has shown in any studies that taking CBD regularly will increase or decrease the hormones that lend to favorable sexual intercourse.

Dee Dee:
Correct. Now there has been research study that helps with that CBD helps with blood flow, but correct. Not necessarily erectile dysfunction blood

Matt:
Flow, correct?

Dee Dee:
Correct. So, I mean, you know, CBD is technically still new. I mean, we couldn’t even do research forever on any cannabis because it being a schedule one, at least here in the United States, but in other parts of the world, they have done more research. Now, have I read anything about that? No, I’ve not. I’ve not seen any documents. I’m sure it will be forthcoming

Matt:
<laugh> yeah. I I’ve really, I’ve seen no studies that, that really lend to that with C B D uh, it’s certainly not a vasodilator. No. Which, uh, are awesome for anyone out there. I’m not gonna lie on a special occasion. What <laugh> birthday holiday Tuesday. Um, oh, wow. They’re fun to have. Um, and you know, whereas they were taboo. They’re not so much anymore. And, um, your heart has to be healthy enough. You definitely want to consult your doctor before you take one. Um, but you know, and, and I really don’t even think you need to have a sexual dysfunction anymore to, to engage in, in, in those. So just throwing that out there, probably vaso dialators. Wow. So off the CBD topic, um, and I, I’m not aware of the, I’m not aware of the health risk of vasodilators by the way. And I’m sure there are some, so you definitely wanna research that. Uh, so anyway, so let’s switch gears, let’s move away from the pH physiological side of it and now into the psychological

Dee Dee:
Side. Okay.

Matt:
As Dee de said, I can tell you from personal experience, C B D relaxes me, especially full spectrum with that microdose of THC

Dee Dee:
Absolutely

Matt:
Takes my elbows away from my, uh, ears and helps me relax. Speaking from personal experience, I struggle, uh, to perform or even enjoy intercourse if I’m not relaxed, right. Or if, uh, I, I feel like I’m distracted or there’s something else on my mind. I, I can’t focus. I’m not enjoying it. I’m either there for a ride or I’m not performing. And it’s terrible. So C B D does lend to the psychological aspect of sex in that it can relax you and change your mindset to make you feel more comfortable and have a better experience with

Dee Dee:
Sex. Well, yes, I think, I think it kind of calms your brain down a little bit. If you’re an overthinker like myself, it CBD gives you that, that everybody needs, especially if you’re moving into that direction, as far as sex goes, um, for women, I mean, I think I can speak about this very easily. My mind never stops even during that time. And I’m like, okay, focus, focus, because you’re here to enjoy this. You, it’s something you need. I think it’s something we all need. I think personally, I think sex was the greatest stress reliever God ever gave us. I really do

Matt:
Agreed

Dee Dee:
<laugh> so I see nothing wrong with it. It’s healthy. You got a good partner, whatever. And to each of their own as well. Um, I think C, B D definitely can help people just relax to be able to enjoy it, you know? And I’m just gonna throw this out there real quick. We, for females, some of us, um, have maybe experienced dryness or they, we experience pain during intercourse and there we actually have a product that has C B D in a personal lubricant. And let me just tell you, I like it, it two thumbs up for me. I like it. I had hysterectomy back in, oh God, I was 38. And I tell you what, that changed things down there for me. Um, so having that CBD and that personal lubricant has been phenomenal. And gosh, I can’t believe I’m talking about this right now. <laugh> but I think it, if, if it’ll help other women, I’m all for it. Try it. I mean, what could hurt?

Matt:
I agree. Yeah. And, and you could argue that female dryness is really the equivalent of, of

Dee Dee:
It can

Matt:
Be of male, uh, erectile dysfunction. It certainly can be. It’s the same thing. It’s a lack of stimulation. Mm-hmm <affirmative> so, but, but getting further into that, a lot of sexual dysfunction for men and women, and I’m gonna speak specifically to men right now, because I am one, uh, believe it or not.

Dee Dee:
Yep. I don’t think anybody’s questioning

Matt:
That one. Got all three. I, no. So with that being said, uh, there is a lot of ed issues that stem from trauma, uh, trauma in early life and trauma in adult life. And it is

Dee Dee:
Same for women.

Matt:
I say, yes, absolutely. Same for women. Mm-hmm <affirmative> on the male side of it. It is extremely difficult for men because of the pretense society puts on them to discuss trauma and to deal with trauma because we are trained at an early age that that’s just what you deal with and you deal with it inside and your job is to make sure everyone else is okay. So whether you’re not you’re okay is not really relevant in comparison to who you’re protecting and caring for. Um, and to some, there is, there’s certainly validity to that, but I do also believe we live in an age where men can and really need to start accepting trauma and dealing with trauma in healthier ways, uh, because it is more socially acceptable now. And if it’s causing problems between you and your partner and that you can’t perform, or what you get to a point where you’re performing and it becomes, um, an uncomfortable experience because of trauma, that can be extremely hard to deal with mm-hmm <affirmative>, and it can be extremely hard for your partner cuz they don’t know, and they don’t understand why you’re going through that.

Matt:
Right. Um, I can tell you from personal experience that, um, sexual dysfunction ha ha as far as performance has not been an issue for me, but as far as enjoyment due to, you know, experiences in my life, um, have been difficult and something I’ve had to work through personally, and there’s not enough CBD in the world that would make that better. Um, that, that has only come from working on myself and dealing with my issues hard. And, and when I say hard, it sounds funny, cuz it is it’s funny and awesome, but,

Dee Dee:
And there’s where my mind went, folks.

Matt:
I mean, that’s where my mind, as soon as it left my mouth, well maybe before, I don’t know my mind plays tricks on it.

Dee Dee:
It does.

Matt:
Um, but, but working on working on yourself is, is, is the only thing. And, and I’m not afraid to admit that. Whereas at one point in my life I would be, and I would never disclose this to the world. Um, well you did no. And, and I have no problems with it because I I’m, I feel very healthy in myself and I’m constantly looking to improve that and, and get better and get healthier, I think, and work on myself.

Dee Dee:
I mean, to me, that’s considered self love and self care, right? You got to, you gotta make changes and to be a better you and to be a healthier, you, we can’t always, I mean, obviously I’ve had a traumatic past myself, but I really try really hard not to live in my past, try to live for the future. I try to live in the now I think that’s important just being the best person. You can be all the time and always being kind and always trying to help people. I just, I truly believe in that and whether it’s this issue or another issue, I think, um, it’s just important to be well rounded and learn constantly.

Matt:
Yeah. Yeah. And, and I couldn’t even begin to speak to the trauma that, that women endure and, and have had to endure because the reality is that up until on the all, if you look at a long enough timeline, women have been subservient in the sexual roles. And to some extent that that may or may not be satisfactory, but to some extent, women don’t necessarily want to be dominated or controlled. Uh, and I’m, I’m not even touching on the whole sex trade,

Dee Dee:
No

Matt:
Terribleness, uh, that, that occurs, uh, in the world. I’m talking just on fulfilling that social role of who you think you should be and what you think should satisfy you as an individual.

Dee Dee:
Um, well we, I, I don’t think a lot of women were taught to be, or to know their sexualness. I guess that’s

Matt:
A word sexuality.

Dee Dee:
Yeah. Sexuality. So

Matt:
Tay

Dee Dee:
<laugh> I, I think, you know, you didn’t really have a lot of role models to talk to about that. You’re kind of left at least in my generation, gen X. Thank you very much. Uh, we kind had figure out out a lot of that on our own or learning from other kids and whoa, you got some bad advice there. <laugh> I mean, come on. So I, I think,

Matt:
Let me consult my peers on this. Right.

Dee Dee:
<laugh> so I think we’re all still learning, even as adults, just trying to figure out what you do, like what you don’t like, what you’re, you will accept what you won’t accept in a partner. I mean, it’s always about open communication, always. I mean, if you see your partner struggling, try to be understanding and listen, I think that’s the big thing. Um, for both men and women, um, I’m not always in the mood. I mean, I might tell my husband, I’m always in the mood, but I’m not always in the mood, you know, there’s days where I’m just like, I, I, I just wanna, I just wanna sit here and do nothing and same thing for him. You know, everybody works hard, we we’re always busy, but I think it’s always important to come together when it comes to sex and being together and being in the moment and being together

Matt:

Well. And, and really the, the last thing that I wanted to bring up in this podcast, which you touch on perfectly is communication. It’s so important to communicate. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, uh, be it yourself, communicating to yourself saying I accepting that you have a problem and getting proactive about what you need to do to fix it, communicating with your partner, that you have a problem or that they might have a problem. Or which if, if, if your partner has a problem and they’re truly your partner, you have a problem. Exactly. Because your problem is their problem. Exactly. And their problem is your problem. And that, and if that communication isn’t happening, which communication is, is, is becoming a lost art. Sometimes I feel in our society and it makes me insane. And that goes straight from the nuclear family all the way out. Um, agreed. And I have my own philosophies on that, which I’m sure we’ll discuss in more detail in another podcast.

Dee Dee:
I’m sure we will too,

Matt:
But, um, it’s it’s communication. Oh. And all around communication. People are afraid to say things. People are afraid. Everyone’s afraid now it’s bullshit. I don’t really care. What’s thought of me because I’ve said something. If I’ve said something, it’s not to offend anyone, if I’ve said something, it’s to make sense of the reality around me, which is all I can do. Uh, and if your partner understands, you they’ll understand that. And they’ll appreciate that. And if they don’t well, you know, you have to make that decision whether or not that’s really your partner and, uh, whether you want to continue to work on that or not.

Dee Dee:
I agree. Yeah. I mean, I agree the moral of this entire podcast today is be careful what you buy don’t believe everything that you hear. Yeah. And CBD does not cure ed.

Matt:
Well, CBD does not cure. It lends. It lends to a lot of health and wellness. Yes. That can improve your sexual function, but is not gonna cure your ed. Exactly. Uh, and it’s not gonna stop you from smoking cigarettes. It’s not gonna stop you from drinking, um, crack. It’s not gonna help you with your crack addiction. <laugh>

Dee Dee:
Maybe the withdrawal symptoms,

Matt:
Maybe the withdrawal symptoms. Yeah. So, I mean get realistic. Uh, we all have to be realistic. We all have to accept that. We owe it to ourselves, our family and our community to communicate, to be healthy. Yes. To seek things other than a magic pill, which is gonna magically make everything better, cuz it’s not. Um, and we all need to work together to, to accept that and to, to create a society where there is open communication from the family level on up. And we’re not just seeking some magic answer that corporation’s gonna monetize on. Right. And get us to buy shit. We don’t need

Dee Dee:
Exactly not. I do believe everybody needs CBD,

Matt:
But, and just take it for the well, what, but yes, but what it does, is it discredit? Does it discredits the industry? It really does because, oh, I’ve got ed. Oh, look, CBD helps with E B E D. Oh. I took CBD for a month. It didn’t help my ed. This stuff is crap. Mm-hmm <affirmative> and then they tell someone and then they tell someone and oh, I tried to quit drinking and take, take CBD. It didn’t help me at all

Dee Dee:
Crack. And the thing about it is there’s, there’s been so many marketing employees already with CBD. What stop smoking, uh, ed, um, take these and you know, you just magically will feel better. Yeah. You know, there’s, there’s so many different marketing things and just gotta be careful read through the lines, read through the scams. You’ve got questions. You can always reach out to us. We’re always here to help. Yeah. Um, that’s important. Yeah. They need a safe space to come talk to us about

Matt:
It. Agreed. And, and it’s twofold. It’s the it’s the industry has a responsibility. Yes. And the FDA has a responsibility. These tests need to be published. These studies need to be completed. Um, it’s been long enough.

Dee Dee:
Agreed.

Matt:
I, I, I, I realize we have to be patient. I’m willing to be patient. I’m doing my best to be patient. But think of the studies that have been done since C’s been out and that was 2020,

Dee Dee:
Right.

Matt:
CBD has been federally legal since 2018 it’s time guys. Let’s agreed. Let’s move forward. Let’s find out what it does. Let’s find out what it doesn’t do. I, I, I mean, you can only hide the truth for so long.

Dee Dee:
Agreed. Well, we appreciate you. We appreciate you listening. Make sure you leave comments like us, send our podcast to your friends so they can learn more to about this amazing industry. And you know, definitely follow us on all social platforms and you have questions. We’re here to help as always keep it hippy out there. Thanks for joining us for another episode of hemp and happiness with the hemp queen.

Matt:
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Dee Dee:
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Matt:
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